The 3 Most Important Questions: I asked them to myself and its Transforming Everything around me

by | Feb 7, 2024 | Mind

Hey there! Feeling like you’re checking all the boxes but still missing that spark of true fulfilment?
You’re not alone. We all chase goals, tick things off lists, but sometimes happiness feels like it’s playing hide-and-seek.

But what if there’s a secret key hidden in plain sight? Only Three simple yet powerful questions that unlock the door to your deepest desires and what truly matters to you?
We often forget to stop from daily race and actually ask ourselves what a good life even means, let alone how to achieve it.

So, with this blog I want to share with you a way to ditch the confusion and embark on a journey of self-discovery? 
Get ready, because these questions might just change your perspective…

The Idea of ‘3 Most important Questions to ask yourself’ is by Vishen Lakhiani. Vishen is a Malaysian-Indian entrepreneur, author, and speaker. He is the founder and CEO of Mindvalley.

It’s about and year that I have stumbled upon his idea. His simple, but not simple, questions stuck with me ever since. Back then, they were the right questions at the right moment. Now, I still use them.

Ditch the “Shoulds”, Discover Your Why: A Guide to Meaningful Goals

Deep down, we all crave happiness, right? Like, the kind that makes your soul sing, not just the temporary “woohoo” from checking things off a list. But here’s the thing: most of us get stuck chasing “shoulds” instead of “wishes”.

These “shoulds” are like these annoying rules society shoves down our throats: get a good degree, land a high-paying job, buy the fancy car, the big house… the list goes on.
We tick boxes, climb ladders, but that nagging feeling of emptiness just won’t budge.

Why? Because those are Means goals and they are just stepping stones, not the final destination. They’re means goals, not end goals.

End goals are about what truly matters: love, joy, making a difference.
They’re the long-term vision, the unique map to your best life, unfolding as beautifully as your life journey itself. Think of it like this:

Means goals:

  • Get a fancy degree (because “that’s what you’re supposed to do”)
  • Make a ton of money (because “that means success sas per society”)
  • Buy a flashy car (because “it shows to the world that you’ve made it”)

End goals:

  • Use your skills to help others and feel fulfilled (not just have a fancy piece of paper)
  • Live comfortably and have financial security (enough to enjoy experiences, not just chase numbers)
  • Have the freedom to travel and connect with loved ones (because that sparks true joy, not just a shiny object)

See the difference? It’s about shifting your focus from the “shoulds” to the “whys”. What truly makes you and your loved ones happy? What experiences light you up? What impact do you want to leave on the world?

Those are the questions that lead you to your end goals. And guess what? You don’t need a magic formula or a fancy life coach to find them. Just grab a pen and paper, and get ready for some self-discovery!

Now let’s explore three powerful questions that can unlock your true desires and guide you towards setting goals that truly matter. So, are you ready to ditch the “shoulds” and discover your “why”? Let’s go!

3 Questions that changes Everything

Ever feel like you’re just… existing, not truly living? Like something’s missing, some spark that makes your soul do a happy dance? We all do sometimes. But here’s the good news: finding that spark isn’t some mystical quest. It’s about tapping into your deepest desires and aligning your life with what truly matters to YOU.

Think of it like this: we all have these basic needs, like growing, learning, and making a difference. But how we fulfill those needs? That’s where it gets personal. It’s like dividing your life into three giant buckets: experiences, growth, and contribution.


And to unlock the secret sauce to a life that rocks, all you gotta do is ask yourself three simple questions:

  1. What experiences make your heart sing? Imagine adventures that make you giddy, connections that leave you buzzing, moments that paint your world in Technicolor. Write ’em down, no matter how crazy they seem!
  2. How do you wanna grow as a person? Think skills you crave, knowledge you thirst for, ways you wanna become the best version of yourself. Maybe it’s mastering that language, writing that novel, or becoming a meditation guru. Let your inner rockstar shine!
  3. How can you leave your mark on the world? What causes light you up? What legacy do you want to leave behind? From volunteering to creating art, there’s a million ways to make a difference, big or small. Find yours!

The best part? There are no wrong answers. Take 90 seconds for each question, let your pen fly, and don’t overthink it. Trust your gut, because that’s where the real magic lies. Remember, this is about YOU, your dreams, your unique contribution to this crazy, beautiful world. So go big, dream wild, and unleash the rockstar within!

Here’s what you can ask yourself. Feel free to answer your own questions coming during these exercises.


1. What do you want to experience?

Write down everything that you could dream of doing or having that would make you feel happy:

  • Think about any experience that you wish to have in this lifetime. 
  • Consider your love life, your relationships, and your sexuality. 
  • Think about what experiences you’d like to have with your friends and family. 
  • What would you like your social life to look like?
  • Assume you have unlimited access to funds. What type of car would you want to drive?
  • What type of home would you want to live in? Are there any other things you dream of having in your life?
  • What places do you want to travel to? 
  • What activities, hobbies, or sports would you love to explore?

2. How do you want to grow?

Jot down anything you’d like to develop in your life:

  • How would you like to develop yourself? Think about your intellectual life, for instance. 
  • What skills would you like to obtain? 
  • How do you want to deal with stressful events in your life?
  • What languages would you want to master?
  • What character traits do you admire in others, and which would you like to master?
  • How do you want to show up in social situations?
  • What are your health and fitness goals? 
  • How long would you like to live? 
  • How would you like to feel, and what would you like to be able to do in your old age?
  • Is there a particular aspect of your spiritual life that you’d like to dive deeper into?

3. How do you want to contribute?

No matter how shitty your life might be, giving back is one of the surest ways to happiness. Think about all the various ways you want to contribute to the world. No matter how big or small your ideas, write down everything that comes to you:

  • How could you contribute to your family, friends, society, city, or even the entire planet?
  • What will be your legacy? 
  • How will you make the world a slightly better place? 
  • Which problem would you like to solve for the planet and humanity?
    It could be volunteering or giving your time to specific people. It could be a particular work you’d like to create. Anything you can think of that would benefit others and our world.

Now that you have a deeper understanding of the 3 Most Important Questions framework, it is time to do the exercise yourself. So grab a notebook and a pen, sit back, and let yourself be guided by Mindvalley Founder, Vishen in below video for this powerful goal-setting exercise. Buckle up and break down each question and get you started on your self-discovery adventure and make your life a masterpiece, one answer at a time!

My 3 MIQs –

1. What do I want to experience?
– Live my Life with Family in a Beautiful Home
– Experience Travelling in Beautiful Cities across World
– Play Beautiful Piano Music in Nature
– Talking in a TV / Video Discussion
– Author of a Bestseller Self-Help Book
– Wear Own Brand of Clothes
– Grow Kids into Best Person in World
– Spend each moment in Love with Special One
– Drive Thar to Best Places in India
– Visit Best Vegan Place / Farm of World
– Have Great Physical Health and Intimate Life with Partner
– Get a Role in Mindvalley or similar Organisation
– Own a Home in Amanora (Township in my City)
2. How do I want to grow?
– Get Deep into Meditation, Manifesting and Creative Visualisation Practices
– Learn and implement multiple sources of income
– Learn Playing Piano & about Music
– Learn about Public Speaking with the Best & Most Effective Manner
– Learn about Book/Article Writing Principles – Fiction, Non Fiction, Personal Growth, Self Help, etc
– Get more deep into Creative & Design Elements Learning
– Learn to Control Bad Habits
– Be the Best Partner, Parent, Child, Manager, Leader and an all round person
– Learn to drive Car in all situations
– Learn to cook best food
– Learn more about fitness, meditation, health & wellness
– Get more expertise into Technology, Management, Leadership and Head a Technology Department
3. How do I want to contribute?
– Create knowledgeable, fun & easy to learn content over internet for people to grow
– Grow my website to help people establish their business online and expand reach
– Grow my Team Members into Best Resources
– Help all people around in whichever area they are stuck
– Donate a portion of my side hustle earnings into charity
– Spend time in Serving in temples or any other religious institutions and NGOs
– Be Always there for People I Love
– Organise Public Events for sharing knowledge and Best Practices across multiple areas
– Create Platform for Free and Easy Learning
– Create Soothing Music that helps people
– Organise self cooked Lunch for People in need

If you read this and are able to help me achieve anything from above, feel free to give a shout. I’ll be really grateful for all your support. And you are all free to reach out to me if you feel I can contribute in achieving your goals.

Lost in the Maze of “What Should I Do?”, Embrace the Unknown

by | Jan 20, 2024 | Mind

Life used to be a kaleidoscope, each twist and turn revealing a shimmering possibility, a path I could chase with breathless wonder. My dreams, like stained glass, cast vibrant hues on the world around me, illuminating a map etched not in ink, but in the echo of my own yearning. The Yogi in the Chaos; the bridge between stillness and hustle, where mindfulness could bloom even in the concrete jungle – that was my North Star, a beacon burning steady in the sea of aspirations.

But lately, the colors in the kaleidoscope have begun to blur. The map, once so clear, seems shrouded in a persistent fog. The “what am I supposed to do?” whisper that used to flit in and out of my mind has become a constant, haunting refrain. It echoes in the quiet mornings, before the day’s masks are donned, and lingers in the hollow spaces between laughter and conversation.

Is it the chaos in mind, sucking the air out of the Yoga, leaving me gasping for meaning even as I chant ancient mantras in the midst of fluorescent lights? Or is it the Yoga, too ethereal, refusing to anchor itself in the messy reality of deadlines and pay checks? Perhaps it’s me, caught in the dizzying dance between two worlds, unable to find solid ground in either.

But maybe, just maybe, this isn’t an ending, but a hidden door. This raw “I don’t know” that burns in my chest, a stark contrast to the pre-programmed routines and societal expectations, could be the spark that ignites a deeper quest. A quest not for answers, not for the next shiny path to chase, but for the very ground beneath my feet.

I remember, with a child’s tenacity, the thrill of exploring a cave without a map, driven by nothing but the hum of curiosity. That’s the essence of being a genuine seeker, I realize, unafraid to face the abyss of existence, not with dread, but with a strange, unsettling sort of wonder. This isn’t just about life choices going wrong; it’s about the very fabric of life, the unknown questions that lie beneath the surface. Why am I here? What does it all mean? And when I step into this ocean of unknown, I know there’s no life preserver of ready-made answers waiting for me.

But this “I don’t know” isn’t just a passing cloud. It’s a primal roar echoing in my soul, a refusal to settle for the comfortable numbness of certainty. It’s a raw vulnerability, a stripping away of masks and facades, a desperate need to understand who I am before I can even begin to fathom what I’m supposed to do.

So, I choose to listen, not with fear, but with a growing sense of purpose. I deepen the question, turn it into a mantra that carries me through the uncertainty. I let it be my compass, the needle always pointing toward the vast, unexplored territory within.

And I know, with a strange certainty, that I’m not alone in this. There are others, too, navigating their own kaleidoscopes, staring into their own abysses. Maybe they’re just starting their questioning, their voices tentative whispers in the darkness. Or maybe they’ve been wandering for years, their faces etched with the wisdom of this existential dance.

Now, I’m trying to lose myself all together, not in despair, but in the boundless possibilities that lie beyond the confines of the map. I will move away from the pressure to conform, to find the right answers, to fit into someone else’s idea of a perfect life. Instead, I’ll embrace the mystery, the beautiful blur of not knowing, and allow it to guide me on a journey of self-discovery.

The greatest adventure, I suspect, isn’t about finding the destination, but about loving the journey of asking the question. So, I’ll ask, I’ll wonder, I’ll stumble and fall and get back up again, all the while knowing that within the blur of the unknown lies the potential for a life more authentic, more fulfilling, more uniquely my own than any pre-determined path could ever offer.

I’ll remember, it’s not about finding the way, it’s about becoming the way. And that journey may starts right now, with a single, courageous step into the beautiful blur of not knowing. In the end, I don’t know and it might be ok.