Unlocking Mastery: The Art of Becoming Exceptional

In life, the most rewarding and fulfilling pursuit is the mastery of a skill. This journey is not about being a jack of all trades but about focusing deeply on one discipline, gaining intimate knowledge, and working tirelessly at it.

As Jerry Seinfeld, one of my favourite comedians, once said,

“The only thing in life that’s really worth having is good skill. Good skill is the greatest possession. I know a lot of rich people, They don’t feel good, as you think they should and would. They’re miserable. Because, if they don’t master a skill, life is unfulfilling.”

Seinfeld’s reflection on the importance of skill mastery was influenced by an article published in Esquire Magazine decades ago. Here are my 5 takeaways from the article:

1. Guidance from the Masters

The first step on the path to mastery is finding the right instruction. This involves seeking out a mentor, teacher, or accountability partner who has deep knowledge of your chosen field. Their guidance and feedback are invaluable as you begin your journey. The article emphasized that “We learn fastest when we get responses.” This is very true; having someone experienced to provide insights and corrections helps accelerate our learning process.

In the Bhagavad Gita, Shri Krishna serves as a mentor to Arjun, guiding him through his doubts and fears on the battlefield. Having a mentor can help us navigate the complexities of our chosen discipline, providing clarity and direction when we need it most.

2. Sacrifice and Persistence: True Committment

Surrendering means acknowledging that where we are now is not where we want to be in the long run. Mastery requires sacrifice and a relentless pursuit of our new endeavor. There will be life tradeoffs, but this surrender is essential for growth. It’s about letting go of our current state to embrace the journey ahead, even if it means making significant sacrifices.

In the Ramayan, Shri Ram exemplifies surrender and dedication to his dharma (duty). Despite facing numerous challenges and sacrifices, he stays true to his path. This teaches us that to achieve mastery, we must be willing to make sacrifices and stay committed to our goals, duties and responsibilities.

3. The Repetition Revolution

It may sound obvious, but repetition or practice is crucial. Improving at anything requires actual, hands-on experience. By gaining relevant experience, learning from failures, and applying newfound knowledge, we can strategically get better. The key is to practice consistently and persistently, repeating till mastery.

The story of Ekalavya from the Mahabharat is a perfect example of Repetition. Despite being denied formal instruction and teaching from Dronacharya, Ekalavya practiced diligently, ultimately becoming an exceptional archer. His story highlights the power of dedication and practice in achieving mastery.

4. The Mental Game: Consistency and Resolve

Mastery demands not just physical practice but also mental discipline. It requires us to develop internal courage and the resolve to stay the course when adversity and setbacks inevitably arise. Consistency often matters more than intensity, and our ability to make gradual progress even on our bad days is paramount.

In the Bhagavad Gita, Krishna advises Arjuna on the importance of a steady mind and unwavering focus. This wisdom applies to our pursuit of mastery as well. The ability to maintain mental discipline and stay committed, despite challenges, is crucial for long-term success.

5. Pushing Boundaries: The Art of Going Beyond

Esquire called this “a deliberate negotiation with your abilities. It is an exercise in controlled abandon.” In essence, it’s about pushing ourselves a little beyond what we think we are capable of, day after day. This constant effort to extend our limits helps us grow and evolve in our chosen field.

In the Mahabharat, Arjun continually pushed the boundaries of his abilities, whether it was mastering new weapons or strategizing in battle. This relentless pursuit of improvement and his willingness to play the edge contributed to his success as a warrior.

The Importance of Focus and Dedication

In today’s competitive world, distinguishing ourselves is rarely about becoming generalists who follow the masses. Instead, it’s about narrowing our focus, cultivating intimate knowledge, and working tirelessly at our craft, even when others might quit. Seinfeld’s advice to “pursue mastery” resonates deeply. It reminds us that true fulfillment comes from dedicating ourselves to a discipline and striving for excellence.

The teachings from ancient texts like the Bhagavad Gita, Ramayana, and Mahabharata reinforce this message. They illustrate the value of focus, dedication, and relentless pursuit of our goals. Whether it’s Shri Krishna guiding Arjun, Shri Ram staying true to his dharma, or Ekalavya’s unwavering practice, these stories inspire us to commit fully to our journey of mastery.

Walking the Road Towards Mastery: My Side 

Reflecting on my journey, I realize how essential some of these principles are becoming part of my life. There have been countless times when I felt like giving up, when the road seemed too long and the obstacles too numerous. But each time, the wisdom of focusing on skill mastery and the scriptures teachings are helping me to stay the course.

These days when I am spending my efforts in learning a new skill, I seek guidance from mentors who had already walked the path via their videos or podcasts or books. Their insights and feedback have been invaluable, helping me avoid common pitfalls and accelerate my progress. This aligns well with the first principle of Guidance from Masters.

Surrendering to the process is another crucial step. I am acceptable to fact that I am not where I want to be, and that getting there would require sacrifices. I try to spend some time alone over weekends, giving up on social events, and sometimes feeling isolated. But the goals to do things keeps me going on, reminding me that these sacrifices I am making temporarily can turn into essentials for long-term success.

Practice is becoming a daily ritual. I try my best to get immersed in the activity, learning from each failure and celebrating small victories. This hands-on experience is crucial, as consistent effort leads to significant improvements over time.

Maintaining mental discipline is perhaps the toughest part. There are days when progress seems slow, and self-doubt creeps in. But I am learning to keep my focus on the bigger picture.

Finally, playing the edge pushes me beyond my comfort zone. I continually challenge myself to do a little more than I think is possible. This relentless pursuit of improvement mirrors the spirit of the warriors and sages in our ancient texts, who never settled for mediocrity.

The Journey Continues: Embracing Mastery

Mastery is not a destination but a continuous journey. It requires dedication, focus, and an unwavering commitment to growth. By following the principles of instruction, surrender, practice, mental discipline, and playing the edge, we can navigate this journey more effectively.

The wisdom from the scriptures, Bhagavad Gita, Ramayana, and Mahabharata provides timeless guidance, reminding us that true fulfilment comes from striving for excellence in our chosen field. As Seinfeld wisely said, “Pursue mastery. That will fulfill your life. You will feel good.”

Embracing these principles are not only helping me grow in my discipline but is also enriching my life in ways I never imagined. I hope that with these insights, you too will be inspired to pursue mastery in your own life. Always keep this one thing in mind, it’s not about being the best; it’s about becoming the best version of yourself. And that journey is the most rewarding of all.

From Toxic Waters to Positive Streams: Navigating Negativity and Finding Your Flow

Do you ever feel like negativity seems to be lurking around every corner, both personally and professionally? Well, in today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to get caught in negativity, whether it stems from toxic relationships, societal pressures, or even our own thoughts. But what if there was a way to navigate these challenges, not just by avoiding them, but by cultivating a positive outlook and finding the ray of hope even in the midst of imperfection? This post aims to be your guide on this journey. We’ll try to explore some ideas for dealing with negativity, the importance of quality connections, and how to shift your mindset to find the positive in any situation.

Breaking Free from Toxic Waters

Life isn’t always sunshine and rainbows. We all encounter toxic relationships, whether in our personal lives or professional environments. Many times this manifests as toxic leadership, negative social norms, or simply being around people who constantly drain our energy.

My conscious expereince related to this topic began in the early stages of my career. Initially, I was fortunate to be surrounded by supportive seniors who prioritized growth and collaboration. However, as the environment shifted, people switched organizations and I found myself lacking those positive connections. Negativity and gossip started to permeate the atmosphere, leaving me feeling drained and unmotivated.

This experience led me to reassess my social circle. I made a conscious effort to spend less time with those who brought negativity into my life and prioritized seeking out positive connections. I started taking solo walks, going on solo trips, and actively cultivating a sense of peace within my own company. This allowed me to regain my strength and rediscover my inner positivity. I learnt that we can nurture our well-being by setting boundaries with toxic individuals, focusing on our own growth, and prioritizing surrounding ourselves with supportive and positive people.

Embracing the Imperfect and Finding the Bright Light even in Chaos

Navigating negativity isn’t just about avoiding toxic people, it’s also about cultivating a mindset that seeks the positive even in challenging situations. You would have heard sstory of a wise woman carrying two water buckets, one with a leak. People point out the flaw, but the woman reminds them that it’s the leaky bucket that nourishes the flowers along the path. This story emphasizes the beauty that can arise from imperfection.

Similarly, when faced with obstacles or setbacks, we often fixate on the negativity. However, what if we shifted our perspective? Instead of dwelling on what went wrong, we could seek the opportunity for growth or the positive aspects that might arise from the situation.

This doesn’t mean ignoring or minimizing challenges, but rather developing the ability to see the positivity in midst of negativity. This could involve practicing gratitude, focusing on personal strengths, or simply acknowledging the lessons learned.

My experience with solo travel exemplifies this point. While some misconstrued my need for solitude as unfriendliness, it was a vital step in detaching from negativity and finding inner peace. These solo journeys allowed me to reconnect with myself, explore new places, and return with a renewed sense of positivity and self-reliance. Also if I come across anyone who might not give very positive vibes, I try to understand them and help them to shift mindset to thinking good things rather than the negatives. Trust me I try my best and give lot of chances but if it doesn’t work out and I feel I am draining in the process, I take a step back and hope that they start getting into positivity, if not through me then someone else maybe.

By adopting a growth mindset, practicing gratitude, and seeking opportunities for learning, we can cultivate a resilience that allows us to find the silver lining even in imperfect situations.

Cultivating Positive Connections and Building a Life that Blooms

Now, let’s address the crucial role of positive connections in fostering well-being and happiness. As my experience highlights, the quality of our connections significantly shapes our lives. It’s essential to surround ourselves with individuals who support our growth, uplift our spirits, and inspire us to be better versions of ourselves.

Thankfully, building positive connections doesn’t have to be complicated. It begins with intentionality. Seek out individuals who share your values and enthusiasm for growth. Look for mentors, communities, or groups that align with your passions and aspirations.

Remember, healthy relationships are a two-way street. Be the kind of person who contributes positively to the lives of others. Practice active listening, offer encouragement and support, and communicate openly and honestly.

Furthermore, don’t be afraid to address any concerns you might have about your impact on others. Open communication can foster understanding and help you refine your interactions in a way that benefits everyone involved.

Fostering positive connections isn’t about perfection. It’s about continuously learning, growing, and nurturing meaningful relationships.

In Conclusion, navigating life’s challenges requires both awareness and action. By setting boundaries with negativity, cultivating a growth mindset, and actively seeking positive connections, we can cultivate an inner strength and resilience that allows us to bloom even in imperfect situations.

You are not alone. We all face challenges and setbacks. By embracing the lessons learned, cherishing positive connections, and choosing to see the positive, we can navigate life’s journey with greater confidence, clarity, and joy.

The 3 Most Important Questions: I asked them to myself and its Transforming Everything around me

Hey there! Feeling like you’re checking all the boxes but still missing that spark of true fulfilment?
You’re not alone. We all chase goals, tick things off lists, but sometimes happiness feels like it’s playing hide-and-seek.

But what if there’s a secret key hidden in plain sight? Only Three simple yet powerful questions that unlock the door to your deepest desires and what truly matters to you?
We often forget to stop from daily race and actually ask ourselves what a good life even means, let alone how to achieve it.

So, with this blog I want to share with you a way to ditch the confusion and embark on a journey of self-discovery? 
Get ready, because these questions might just change your perspective…

The Idea of ‘3 Most important Questions to ask yourself’ is by Vishen Lakhiani. Vishen is a Malaysian-Indian entrepreneur, author, and speaker. He is the founder and CEO of Mindvalley.

It’s about and year that I have stumbled upon his idea. His simple, but not simple, questions stuck with me ever since. Back then, they were the right questions at the right moment. Now, I still use them.

Ditch the “Shoulds”, Discover Your Why: A Guide to Meaningful Goals

Deep down, we all crave happiness, right? Like, the kind that makes your soul sing, not just the temporary “woohoo” from checking things off a list. But here’s the thing: most of us get stuck chasing “shoulds” instead of “wishes”.

These “shoulds” are like these annoying rules society shoves down our throats: get a good degree, land a high-paying job, buy the fancy car, the big house… the list goes on.
We tick boxes, climb ladders, but that nagging feeling of emptiness just won’t budge.

Why? Because those are Means goals and they are just stepping stones, not the final destination. They’re means goals, not end goals.

End goals are about what truly matters: love, joy, making a difference.
They’re the long-term vision, the unique map to your best life, unfolding as beautifully as your life journey itself. Think of it like this:

Means goals:

  • Get a fancy degree (because “that’s what you’re supposed to do”)
  • Make a ton of money (because “that means success sas per society”)
  • Buy a flashy car (because “it shows to the world that you’ve made it”)

End goals:

  • Use your skills to help others and feel fulfilled (not just have a fancy piece of paper)
  • Live comfortably and have financial security (enough to enjoy experiences, not just chase numbers)
  • Have the freedom to travel and connect with loved ones (because that sparks true joy, not just a shiny object)

See the difference? It’s about shifting your focus from the “shoulds” to the “whys”. What truly makes you and your loved ones happy? What experiences light you up? What impact do you want to leave on the world?

Those are the questions that lead you to your end goals. And guess what? You don’t need a magic formula or a fancy life coach to find them. Just grab a pen and paper, and get ready for some self-discovery!

Now let’s explore three powerful questions that can unlock your true desires and guide you towards setting goals that truly matter. So, are you ready to ditch the “shoulds” and discover your “why”? Let’s go!

3 Questions that changes Everything

Ever feel like you’re just… existing, not truly living? Like something’s missing, some spark that makes your soul do a happy dance? We all do sometimes. But here’s the good news: finding that spark isn’t some mystical quest. It’s about tapping into your deepest desires and aligning your life with what truly matters to YOU.

Think of it like this: we all have these basic needs, like growing, learning, and making a difference. But how we fulfill those needs? That’s where it gets personal. It’s like dividing your life into three giant buckets: experiences, growth, and contribution.


And to unlock the secret sauce to a life that rocks, all you gotta do is ask yourself three simple questions:

  1. What experiences make your heart sing? Imagine adventures that make you giddy, connections that leave you buzzing, moments that paint your world in Technicolor. Write ’em down, no matter how crazy they seem!
  2. How do you wanna grow as a person? Think skills you crave, knowledge you thirst for, ways you wanna become the best version of yourself. Maybe it’s mastering that language, writing that novel, or becoming a meditation guru. Let your inner rockstar shine!
  3. How can you leave your mark on the world? What causes light you up? What legacy do you want to leave behind? From volunteering to creating art, there’s a million ways to make a difference, big or small. Find yours!

The best part? There are no wrong answers. Take 90 seconds for each question, let your pen fly, and don’t overthink it. Trust your gut, because that’s where the real magic lies. Remember, this is about YOU, your dreams, your unique contribution to this crazy, beautiful world. So go big, dream wild, and unleash the rockstar within!

Here’s what you can ask yourself. Feel free to answer your own questions coming during these exercises.


1. What do you want to experience?

Write down everything that you could dream of doing or having that would make you feel happy:

  • Think about any experience that you wish to have in this lifetime. 
  • Consider your love life, your relationships, and your sexuality. 
  • Think about what experiences you’d like to have with your friends and family. 
  • What would you like your social life to look like?
  • Assume you have unlimited access to funds. What type of car would you want to drive?
  • What type of home would you want to live in? Are there any other things you dream of having in your life?
  • What places do you want to travel to? 
  • What activities, hobbies, or sports would you love to explore?

2. How do you want to grow?

Jot down anything you’d like to develop in your life:

  • How would you like to develop yourself? Think about your intellectual life, for instance. 
  • What skills would you like to obtain? 
  • How do you want to deal with stressful events in your life?
  • What languages would you want to master?
  • What character traits do you admire in others, and which would you like to master?
  • How do you want to show up in social situations?
  • What are your health and fitness goals? 
  • How long would you like to live? 
  • How would you like to feel, and what would you like to be able to do in your old age?
  • Is there a particular aspect of your spiritual life that you’d like to dive deeper into?

3. How do you want to contribute?

No matter how shitty your life might be, giving back is one of the surest ways to happiness. Think about all the various ways you want to contribute to the world. No matter how big or small your ideas, write down everything that comes to you:

  • How could you contribute to your family, friends, society, city, or even the entire planet?
  • What will be your legacy? 
  • How will you make the world a slightly better place? 
  • Which problem would you like to solve for the planet and humanity?
    It could be volunteering or giving your time to specific people. It could be a particular work you’d like to create. Anything you can think of that would benefit others and our world.

Now that you have a deeper understanding of the 3 Most Important Questions framework, it is time to do the exercise yourself. So grab a notebook and a pen, sit back, and let yourself be guided by Mindvalley Founder, Vishen in below video for this powerful goal-setting exercise. Buckle up and break down each question and get you started on your self-discovery adventure and make your life a masterpiece, one answer at a time!

My 3 MIQs –

1. What do I want to experience?
– Live my Life with Family in a Beautiful Home
– Experience Travelling in Beautiful Cities across World
– Play Beautiful Piano Music in Nature
– Talking in a TV / Video Discussion
– Author of a Bestseller Self-Help Book
– Wear Own Brand of Clothes
– Grow Kids into Best Person in World
– Spend each moment in Love with Special One
– Drive Thar to Best Places in India
– Visit Best Vegan Place / Farm of World
– Have Great Physical Health and Intimate Life with Partner
– Get a Role in Mindvalley or similar Organisation
– Own a Home in Amanora (Township in my City)
2. How do I want to grow?
– Get Deep into Meditation, Manifesting and Creative Visualisation Practices
– Learn and implement multiple sources of income
– Learn Playing Piano & about Music
– Learn about Public Speaking with the Best & Most Effective Manner
– Learn about Book/Article Writing Principles – Fiction, Non Fiction, Personal Growth, Self Help, etc
– Get more deep into Creative & Design Elements Learning
– Learn to Control Bad Habits
– Be the Best Partner, Parent, Child, Manager, Leader and an all round person
– Learn to drive Car in all situations
– Learn to cook best food
– Learn more about fitness, meditation, health & wellness
– Get more expertise into Technology, Management, Leadership and Head a Technology Department
3. How do I want to contribute?
– Create knowledgeable, fun & easy to learn content over internet for people to grow
– Grow my website to help people establish their business online and expand reach
– Grow my Team Members into Best Resources
– Help all people around in whichever area they are stuck
– Donate a portion of my side hustle earnings into charity
– Spend time in Serving in temples or any other religious institutions and NGOs
– Be Always there for People I Love
– Organise Public Events for sharing knowledge and Best Practices across multiple areas
– Create Platform for Free and Easy Learning
– Create Soothing Music that helps people
– Organise self cooked Lunch for People in need

If you read this and are able to help me achieve anything from above, feel free to give a shout. I’ll be really grateful for all your support. And you are all free to reach out to me if you feel I can contribute in achieving your goals.

New Approach to Workplace Learning

Michelle Parry-Slater’s Learning and Development Handbook opens with an observation that’s unlikely to shock anyone. The workplace, she notes, is changing – fast. 

The skills needed in today’s business world aren’t the skills we needed in the past. Keeping up with change means the same thing for organizations as it does for individuals: upskilling and reskilling. So far, so uncontroversial. Everyone knows that, right? 

Well, knowing something and acting on that knowledge are two different things. Which brings us to a second – much more surprising – observation.

Despite the digital revolution, most companies still rely on classroom-based, face-to-face learning to train their employees. Studies show, however, that the typical employee forgets around three quarters of what they learn in such settings within just one day. Put differently, most companies are spending a lot of money and wasting a lot of time to achieve very little. 

Michelle Parry-Slater is convinced that there’s a better way of doing things – that’s why she wrote this Handbook. Let’s dig into her alternative approach to workplace learning. 

In this post –

•  Why training courses often aren’t about work at all

•  What the digital present and the analogue Stone Age past have in common.

•  Why it’s sometimes best to let people do their own learning.

Organizations can’t rely on old learning models in a changing world.

To start off, we’re going to be talking about learning in a particular context – organizations and companies. In other words, we’ll be looking at professional development. 

Our question, then, is how professionals master new skills and pick up the know-how they need in today’s fast-moving workplaces. But before we get to that, let’s take a step back and think about learning in general. How does any learning take place? 

From schools to universities, public talks, and office training programs, it often happens in a similar way. This learning model centers the sage on the stage. Let’s break that down. 

Although the specifics vary, the idea is usually the same. There’s an expert – an individual with special access to some kind of knowledge. Then there’s the audience – the people who turn up at a certain time and place to learn from that sage. This model is face-to-face: everyone is present in person. It’s also top-down. The teacher talks; the audience listens. 

There’s a reason this model is so common – it can be very effective. As we found out during the Covid-19 pandemic, something important gets lost when traditional learning environments like classrooms disappear. And there are things you really only can learn if you’re physically present. Online-only courses aren’t a great way of acquiring first-aid skills, for example. You need the real-world, face-to-plastic experience of breathing into a CPR doll. It’s the same with learning to drive – you have to sit in an actual car on a real road with a bonafide instructor. 

Thing is, though, face-to-face learning isn’t the only way people can learn. It’s a cliché, but, like so many clichés, it’s true: the digital revolution is a game-changer. The smartphones in our pockets give us unprecedented access to knowledge, bypassing that sage on the stage. The laptops in our bags meanwhile allow us to work remotely, eroding the old emphasis on physical presence. These are simple facts, Michelle Parry-Slater says, and neither organizations nor learning and development specialists can wish them away. The upshot? We need new approaches to professional development. 

That doesn’t mean abandoning tried-and true methods in favor of fashionable gimmicks. Immediately adopting the latest tech isn’t a cure-all. But we can’t just keep doing what we’ve always done because, well, that’s how things are done. What we need to do, she suggests, is spend more time thinking seriously about learning in this new environment. In some cases, face-to-face will still be the way to go; in others, it won’t. Oftentimes, the best approach will be to blend different models. 

Take just one example. When the author worked with the Girl Guides, she looked at their first-aid program. She realized that some 80 percent of the organization’s refresher courses could be taken online. You just don’t need people to be physically present to sit multiple-choice tests on basic medical knowledge. A skill like CPR is different – you need to practice it for real, with an expert. And that’s what the Girl Guides do. They keep the analogue stuff analogue and move the rest online. 

The point, here, is that face-to-face learning isn’t going away – it’s too important. But it’s not the be-all and end-all of learning. That, Parry-Slater thinks, is the key lesson for organizations and their learning and development teams. In practice, though, that’s often easier said than done. 

Face-to-face learning is popular, but not for the reasons people tend to give.

In 2020, the Chartered Institute of Personnel and Development, Britain’s leading association of HR professionals, published its annual “Learning and Skills at Work” report. Its conclusion: face-to-face learning was still the dominant approach to professional development in Britain. Evidence from other Western countries paints a similar picture. 

Organizations, it seems, are resisting change and sticking to old learning approaches even as technological change opens up alternatives. But where does this opposition to new ideas and models come from? One factor is simple inertia. Learning in professional contexts has mirrored classroom-based learning since the Industrial Revolution. The idea that learning happens when an expert takes to the stage and delivers their knowledge to a captive audience has deep cultural roots. That’s hardly surprising – it’s an idea that’s been around for a long time. 

That’s not the only factor, though. In fact, the most common argument in favor of face-to-face learning isn’t that it’s the only or best approach. The usefulness of remote and online learning models is well-documented, after all. The real obstacle to change is the stated preference of would-be learners. When asked, they typically say that they prefer classroom-based learning. 

The problem for learning and development professionals is that you can’t just tell people that their ideas are outdated and that you know better. As the saying goes, you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink. Forcing those would-be learners to adopt methods they’re not sold on is a recipe for resentment – and very little learning. So where does that leave you – how can you persuade people to try new and valuable approaches which they might distrust? There’s only one answer, really: you have to find out what they’re actually getting out of face-to-face learning. 

Start digging and you’ll often realize that there’s not necessarily a lot of overlap between people’s stated preferences and their real preferences. Teams might say that they love that three-day training course in a hotel on the other side of the country because it’s a great way to learn new skills. In reality, though, they might just appreciate the chance to spend more time with colleagues. Or that it buys them some time to think. Or, more simply, that it gets them away from the daily grind.  

These are all good reasons to like face-to-face learning. Like school classrooms, events which require physical presence aren’t just about absorbing knowledge and honing new skills – lots of other things happen there too. And those things matter. Well-rested teams that know each other socially as well as professionally tend to be more productive – and happier. You don’t want to cut those face-to-face events because learning isn’t front and center, but it’s important to call a spade a spade. 

If you find out that social bonds are important to a team, you’ve discovered another strategy you can use to foster professional development. That brings us to our next topic – social learning. 

Social learning is deeply rooted in the human psyche.

Let’s circle back to the question we posed earlier. How, we asked, does learning happen? As we saw, in formal contexts it’s usually top-down and expert-led. 

Lots of learning isn’t like this, however. It doesn’t involve experts; it takes place between peers. It’s horizontal, not hierarchical. Psychologists call it social learning. 

Humans are social animals. We constantly pick up information and ideas from other people. We chat on buses and tell stories around water coolers. We listen to podcasts, read books and blogs, and watch movies. We gossip, swap tips, recount experiences, and observe how our peers behave in different social situations. That’s how we learn about the world. That’s social learning.

Social learning goes all the way back to the origins of Homo sapiens. Our ancient ancestors shared stories around campfires and on the walls of caves – the canvases for some of humanity’s earliest visual storytelling. Survival depended on watching and copying others. That’s how you learned how to hunt, light fires, and distinguish between delicious berries and fatally poisonous doppelgangers. 

Of course, Stone Age humanity’s social world wasn’t very big – it usually extended no further than the territory of the tribe. Over time, the social world expanded. When the printing press came along, information began to circulate across continents. Nowadays, information circles the globe in seconds. Fundamentally, though, little has changed. When we watch amateur chefs cooking pad thai on YouTube or browse fitness forums, we’re doing something humans have always done: learning from our peers. Sure, it’s gotten a lot more technologically sophisticated, but it’s still social learning. 

The American educational psychologist and author Julian Stodd, who has written a lot about learning and development in the digital age. says that, Learning, is built on trust. If we trust someone, we will believe that they’re telling us something important and useful, rather than tricking us into accepting beliefs that benefit them. As social animals, though, we’re primed to trust knowledge we acquire through social learning much more than the knowledge we acquire formally. That’s why, for example, so many people are happier to accept ideas they encounter online, from peers, than ideas that come from on high, from experts. 

Stodd’s conclusion, like the author’s, isn’t that we need to reinforce the authority of experts. Instead, they argue that we should work with the grain of human psychology. If social learning plays such an outsized role in knowledge acquisition, we should find ways of incorporating it into learning strategies. So, to come back to professional development, here’s the question we need to ask: how can we facilitate people learning from each other for the benefit of work? 

Use internal experts to create equal access to social learning.

So let’s look at the workplace. Of course, there’s a ton of social learning already happening even if no one is deliberately orchestrating it. 

Say someone’s struggling with some software. They might go to HR to ask for formal training. But let’s also say there isn’t an old-fashioned, face-to-face course they could attend, or there is but it’s next month. Chances are, they’re not going to sit around twiddling their thumbs for a month. No, they’ll ask a colleague to show them how it’s done. Problem solved – right? 

Not quite. The issue, here, is that offices aren’t perfectly egalitarian places. There are cliques and in-crowds and shared experiences which bind some people while excluding others. If you’ve just joined a new team, for example, or you don’t happen to sit next to the right people, you’re going to struggle to access information you need. Put differently, leaving social learning to chance is unfair.

And that’s why learning and development specialists need to step in. Question is, how can you do that? One strategy is to build up ties between team members and internal experts.  

An internal expert is pretty much what it sounds like – someone who knows a lot about a certain area. For example, imagine a company has an accountant called Sarah. Her field of expertise is clear – she’s the go-to person for financial matters. But she might not know how to use the company’s holiday booking system. Abdul in IT, though, knows all about that. Luckily, the learning and development team has already drawn up a checklist of the company’s internal experts. When Sarah comes to HR with her problem, they can put her in contact with Abdul. Later on, when Abdul needs to do his expense processing, he knows whom to approach – Sarah from accounting. 

The relationship between Sarah and Abdul is informal and horizontal – it’s based on social learning. But that relationship has been facilitated. It’s a result of the learning and development team adopting a deliberate social learning strategy. It’s playing the role of a skills matchmaker. By compiling a list of internal experts, it’s cut out a lot of wasted time and annoyance, too – just think how frustrating it is when you don’t know how to do something at work or who can help you. Best of all, everyone from insiders to newbies has equal access to help and assistance. 

Another great way of nurturing social learning is to host lunch-and-learn sessions. The idea here is to get people who might not know each other all too well together at lunch to discuss a topic. Typically, an expert kicks the session off by sharing insights into their area of expertise and the conversation flows from there. Sharing ideas and stories over food connects to a very old and deeply rooted social convention, and it helps keep these sessions low-key and low-pressure. Although this is still work time, it’s ultimately just a group of people sitting around eating food and having a good conversation. And that really does connect the dots between human psychology, learning, and better workplaces.   

Tech is great for learning but the magic ingredient is motivation.

Let’s wrap things up by looking at the digital revolution. As we said, it’s a game-changer. But that doesn’t mean it’s a silver bullet. 

Thing is, we only learn when we want to learn. And technology is a means to an end – an awesomely efficient means to an end, but a means to an end all the same. Just think of all the great content that’s freely available online. There are entire libraries’ worth of brilliant ideas out there, just a few seconds away. But lots of people don’t use the internet to consume that content. Technology can give us access to learning, but it doesn’t drive learning. Not on its own. The missing key is motivation. 

Motivation often gets lost in all the talk about digitalization. Yes, new tech has made it easier and cheaper to put lots of people through training courses at record speed, but how much are unmotivated e-learners really going to take from those courses? Answer: next to nothing. Boring learning that’s only there to tick boxes and keep overheads down doesn’t motivate anyone. But let’s not throw the baby out with the bathwater. Instead, we need to think about another question: what does engaging, effective digital learning actually look like? 

First off, it has to be short, convenient, and relevant. That means high-impact interventions at the point of need. In practice, that’s an intuitive online help functionality for new software – not a one-off, hour-long online training course that interrupts people’s workflow. 

Second, it has to be made to the same standards as the digital media people regularly consume. It doesn’t have to be perfect, but it does have to be as well made as the YouTube videos they watch. Learners are motivated by the prospect of a quick win, and clearing these bars shows them that you get that. 

Context also matters. Remember what we said earlier about people liking face-to-face learning because it gets them out of the office and gives them a chance to network? Well, people often dislike digital learning because it feels passive, lonely, and sedentary. We’re social animals; we enjoy learning with peers, not alone in front of a screen. E-learning, then, isn’t a stand-alone solution – it needs to be embedded in a wider culture of social learning. One way of fostering such a culture is to host regular drop-in sessions for people to chat about their challenges and experiences with tech. Sharing digital tips or links to digital tools as well as success stories of how people have used those tools via email is another option. Even better, you can challenge people to present ideas and tools they find effective. Anything that gets people talking and sharing is a winner here. 

How we learn is changing

How we learn is changing – both in and outside the workplace. Digital technology has made it faster, cheaper, and easier to learn than ever before, but it’s no perfect solution. If we’re not motivated to learn, we’re not going to learn anything – regardless how fast, cheap, and easy it might be. That means HR teams need to embed new digital tools in a wider culture of professional development which foregrounds social learning and solves people’s real problems at work.